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Intentional Fatherhood

Intentional. On purpose. Consciously pointing beyond oneself. No matter how you define or perceive intentionality, it comes back to one very simple idea—intentionality does not happen by mistake.

At the time of this writing, I am the father of 4 beautiful children. I say at the time of this writing, because most of our friends and family joke that we could be adding more children at any time. You see, the oldest of my children is 4. His name is Christian. He has twin sisters, Selah and Jadah, that turn 3 in less than a week. Then there’s the perfect one, Adriah.  She’s almost 9 months. The word perfect is used in the context of being compared to her older siblings. Adriah smiles 90% of the time she’s awake and we can almost completely control where she goes and what she does. So compared to an unstoppable 4 year old and two constantly moving almost 3 year olds, she’s fairly close to perfect.

I did not become a father by mistake. The conception of our firstborn, Christian, was very intentional. And since producing 3 more children, Rachel and I have realized we have been blessed with a special gift. This gift in real-time looks like this—Me: “Hey Rachel, we should have another kid.” Rachel: “Ok, I think I’m ready.” Next day—Rachel: “Simon, I’m pregnant!” Call it a blessing or call it super-fertile. Whatever it is, we have been blessed with the ability to have children….so that’s what we’re doing. How many? Check back every week, because that’s how often our opinion changes.

I have many hats in life. Husband. Father. Employee. Christian. Redskins fan. Orioles fanatic. Story enthusiast. Fast-talking socialite. And probably many more. But I have come to realize a major crux of my existence at this juncture in my life falls on the second hat listed; father. Being a father is so very dear to my heart and is immensely important.

If you talk or discuss the importance of fatherhood versus husbandry, many times you will receive feedback that a man’s job and duties as a husband should come before those as a father. I have a slightly differing opinion for a very simple reason. While the role of a husband is extremely important and should be approached with the upmost sincerity, I put the role of fatherhood ever-so-slightly ahead of it on the importance scale.

My reason:

No matter what I do (within reason), there’s only a certain degree to which I can “mess up” my wife. Her personality and character are already intact. (Just a side note: I have a super-extraordinary wife! You’ll hear more about her in later posts.)

BUT, I have the opportunity to “mess up” and influence the personality and character of my children every, single day. Fatherhood is the greatest gift and most challenging duty I have received in my life.

That’s the mission of this blog: To spur other fathers (and others interested) on in this journey to take on fatherhood with unabashed intentionality. To whom much is given, much will be required. What more can a person be given in this life than the care of a tender soul?

Stories. Ideas. Opportunities. And all things connected to life will be shared in the posts to follow. But as fathers, we must understand that EVERYTHING we do and experience influences us in this pivotal role. Let us come together and show the world how a generation of intentional fathers can change the trajectory of society.

Never forget:



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