One of the facets of little children that makes being a dad so wonderful is the idea of unbridled innocence. As I sit watching my kids play at a little park (yes, I’m writing this on my iPhone :)), there’s a large rock just outside the bark playground border that they’re somehow drawn towards. I want to yell to Christian to see if he can climb on it, but then I realize yelling is probably not required. Sure enough, his very first action is to conquer the mountain of the great rock at Eller Run Park.
Selah, Christian, and Jadah after they conquered the rock!
Selah and Jadah wanted their own picture on the rock.
The world is his oyster. His playground. Some would say that this is innocence or naïveté. They want their children to be realistic and to grow up as soon as possible.
Why? Why do we have a desire for them to see the world as we do? Why this desire for them to see a dark and fallen society where pain tends to regularly outweigh happiness? Why shame them of their innocence?
As a dad, I find myself wanting to see the world more as they do. I want to see the beauty in a caterpillar slowly making its way across the sidewalk or a plane soaring high above us in a clear blue sky.
Some dads see their job as pushing reality on their children as early as possible. If I can help my children maintain their unbridled innocence as long as possible, I know I will have done my job as an intentional father.
Why is it the first thing that comes out of our mouths? We’ve seen it time and again. At the end of the big game, the camera zooms in, and the athlete says it….”Hi Mom!” Somehow it naturally comes out. In an instant of realizing that this may be their one chance to acknowledge someone to an audience of millions of people the first name that comes out is MOM.
Yea, this is a blog about intentional fatherhood. But how can you be an intentional father without recognizing the wonder of Moms?
Here’s a great video ESPN put out about the phenomenon of “hi Mom!”:
One important statement in this video is that these athletes have not gotten to where they are on their power alone. Moms are the chauffeurs, the chefs, the doctors, the agents, and the cheerleaders. We know that Dads share with these responsibilities, but the “normal” family household today still runs by this model. And thank heavens it’s that way in our house! Rachel is a true blessing to our kids and I know that if they ever have that moment with a camera in their faces—even if it’s just a home video–that most likely “hi Mom!” will be the wonderful words that come from their mouths.
So if you haven’t take the time today, tomorrow, or any other day. Give a quick call, send a text, write an email, tweet it out, or do whatever you need to do and say thanks Mom, I love you!
By the way…..hi Mom! Thanks! I love you.
Here’s a great Mother’s Day clip that takes me back to my childhood! I remember getting home by 9pm on Wednesday nights so we could watch Home Improvement before having to go to bed. This one’s for you Mom!
Just a couple of weeks ago Rachel and I finally had the chance to watch the movie We Bought a Zoo. A synopsis of the movie can be read here: We Bought a Zoo Synopsis
But my even quicker synopsis is this: man’s wife dies leaving behind him and 2 kids. Man buys small house/zoo in the country to try to start fresh. Man fights tooth and nail to keep zoo open. Family is brought closer and lives are changed through the ordeal. Feel good ending credits.
(I could spend an entire post on what it would mean to lose my wife and how devastating that would be, but that’s for a different time.)
I want to focus on Ben Mee, the main character portrayed by Matt Damon. Ben is faced with some drastic decisions of how to lead his family completely alone and take care of his kids for the first time. As dads, we are all going to be faced with difficult situations when we have to make pivotal decisions that can completely change the trajectory of our families.
After making these pivotal decisions that somehow get him owning a zoo, someone asks Ben–who had spent his career as an “adventure” journalist–why are you doing this? His response–“I’m tired of watching from the sidelines. I want to give my kids the chance to LIVE the adventure!”
Life is a great adventure. Are you living the adventure with your kids? Or are you standing on the sideline? Get out there! Get dirty and crazy. Lead your family to live a life of wonderful, unabashed adventure!