You know you’ve done it. At some time or another we all have. You push and push for a full 3 or 4 seconds until you see the big, bold “PULL” sign on the door. (Cue the sideways glances to see if anybody saw you do it.) Here’s a video to make us all feel a little better:
Every once and a while I hear some song lyrics or a phrase or saying that I think cuts down deep into the human condition. The title of this post is actually a song by For King & Country. Here’s the song with lyrics:
I feel like at least once a week being a dad is like pushing on a pull door. I keep pushing forward trying to make things happen with my kids. Trying to make them behave in a certain manor, and nothing works! But when I stop and look, I realize I’ve been pushing when I need to be pulling. Does that make sense? Have you ever felt that way?
It’s like the times that Christian is instructed to do something and quickly reacts with a harsh “No!”–and my “pushing response” is to yell right back at him. After this doesn’t work or get the action I desire, I stop and realize that a good “pulling response” is to handle the situation calmly and precisely.
In the middle of this song they state:
“You made a plan
You think you’re in control
Yeah, you’re flying
But you’re way too high to fall
And hey man
Check around the corner
Because it’s coming
Here’s your wakeup call.”
So many times I think I’m in complete control of what’s going on with my kids. Then…boom! I react or am presented with a new and unique situation. I get the wakeup call that allows me the realization that I need to continually be on my toes. Continually seeking outside, Divine help to lead these children I’ve been blessed with. The beginning of the song alludes to this help, the fact that God is in control and can always reverse parenting tragedies into golden moments.
Every child is different. Some need pushed and some need pulled. What I need to do as a dad is continue to work within this intentional mindset of knowing when to push and when to pull. It usually helps to take a minute and read the sign!