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Family Road Trips….


If you follow Rachel at all on Instagram or Facebook, you may have seen that we recently endeavored on a 2500+ mile road trip with our family of 7. Why would we put ourselves through such an ordeal? Well we say the better question is, WHY NOT?

We desire to have a family life that says yes to adventure and no to the mundane. We realize this isn’t for everyone. As one of my favorite authors and preachers Mark Batterson says, “Don’t accumulate possessions. Accumulate experiences!”

This road trip was the opportunity to accumulate some experiences for our kids and to see some friends from Indiana. Since we made the move to Florida just over 2 months ago, Christian has had the hardest adjustment. He has really been enjoying life most of the time, but he misses his old friends the most—especially his brothers from a different mother, Jace and Will Tonagel. Jace and Will’s dad is Greg Tonagel, the men’s basketball coach for our favorite team, the IWU Wildcats. The Wildcats were getting ready to play in the NAIA national tournament in Branson, MO….so we said….WHY NOT?!? And we took to the road for an adventure.

Well, for those of you who are thinking about venturing on a road trip with a young family, here are a few tips we picked up:

  1. Have enough vehicle space.

You may not know this, but Rachel and I are rocking the old school 12-passenger van these days. Picture the church van you used to take summer youth trips in, but make it sweet gold instead of white or black. While this van has more room than we need, on more than one occasion we have been extremely thankful for the extra space. When you’re driving all day for 2 days in a row, it is very welcoming for the kids to have the space to be less likely to pummel each other. I’d advise having at least 2 more seats available than what you need. But to each his own. If you choose to use a 7-seat minivan for 7 people to drive over 1,000 miles, it’s your funeral. 🙂

  1. Find great friends.

On the first leg of our journey, we had the immense privilege of staying with our now dear friends Robin and Chad Merrill in the suburbs of Atlanta. Robin is also a Senior Associate with GiANT Worldwide, and she gave our family a supreme taste of Southern hospitality. Breaking a long into pieces trip by staying a night or 2 with some close (or soon to be close 🙂 friends is a great way to make a long trip much more enjoyable.

As you can see, Christian had a good time with the Merrills.

  1. Have entertainment boundaries for your kids.

Just kidding. 😛 If you know us at all, you know that compared to some we are fairly strict on how much our kids are allowed to play on devices or watch movies/tv. On trips, we tend to leave the boundaries MUCH more open. We do require them to turn things off and either read or rest occasionally, but for the most part we figure they’ll stop when the battery dies on their Kindle/iPad.

  1. Be Flexible! (Obviously)

Hardly anything in life goes as planned. Long road trips with young families are no different. If you are not a flexible person (in attitude not body) and desire to develop more flexibility in your personality, take your family on a road trip. You invariably have to be open to plans changing and making adjustments as you go.

All-in-all, we had an enjoyable experience on our road trip and highly enjoyed seeing friends again and watching our Wildcats make the final 4. The most unique experience? The kids really wanted to sleep in the van for a night on the way home. So with 3 bench seats and floor space available, the big golden Henry mobile became the Henry house on wheels for a night of sleeping in the panhandle of Florida. And you know what…..we all survived and accumulated another great experience.

So I encourage you….look for unique and adventurous ways that you can create unique and memorable experiences for your family right now. We’ll never get these times back.



Christian, Jace, and Will got their hands on my phone:

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After looking back at this blog, I realized I have written a whopping two posts over the last year. Why has this happened? Life? Kids? Lack of inspiration? Lack of desire? It could be all or none of those. It doesn’t really matter. What matters is that I feel as though I have more clarity now on my desire for intentionality as a father.

You may or may not know, but Rachel and I have very recently made a move from Marion, Indiana to Estero, Florida. We arrived on January 6th and have been LOVING the winter weather in Southwest Florida! The short story on the move is that as I was making the transition to join GiANT Worldwide, we felt confirmed by God to make this move. Maybe down the road I’ll detail that journey.

I strongly believe that joining GiANT as a Senior Associate will have a major long-term impact on my marriage and my parenting. Let me share why.

The vision statement of GiANT Worldwide is “To raise up liberating leaders who will change leadership culture in every major sector and city in the world.” And the mission is to help people: BECOME leaders worth following, BUILD leaders worth following, and LEAD an organization everyone wants to work for.

One of the mantras we preach as Associates for GiANT is that you can’t give away what you don’t possess. We are desire to give away liberation. But how can I give it away if I’m constantly dominating and protecting my family. Let me share a few graphics to illustrate my point.

In the graphic below are the five circles of influence. Self. Family. Team. Organization. Community. But what does it really mean to influence/lead yourself? In the second graphic you’ll see the concept of “Know Yourself to Lead Yourself.” The better you can understand your own natural tendencies and habits, the better you can lead yourself to positive consequences. Only after I’m intentionally leading myself can I begin to intentionally lead my family.

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As a husband and dad, my highest goal is to lead and liberate my family. But that leads to the question, what does it actually mean to liberate my family? The graphic below is called the support/challenge matrix. As a dad, I seem to naturally flow into two quadrants—either the protector or dominator. For example, with our 4-year old Adriah, I tend to be a protector and provide a lot of support but very little challenge. With our 8-year old Christian, I tend to always provide a lot of challenge but struggle with giving him the support he needs. I am in a constant battle to provide both the support and challenge that my kids need in order to be liberated and feel as though our household is place of empowerment and opportunity.


Every day is a struggle to live this intentionally. Every child is different, and every child needs support and challenge in different ways. My goal is that even though every day at different times I will probably operate in all four quadrants, that I can slowly over time get to the point where a majority of my time can be spent as a liberator in all of my circles of influence.

So may you as parents, fathers, mothers, husbands, wives, friends, teachers, influencers–go and provide the support and challenge that others need so you may be liberators in all of the circles of influence in your lives.

(***If you’d like to talk more about GiANT and how we help build cultures of liberation, please let me know. I’m always ready to help build leaders to become true influencers and conduits of liberation.)




Here are some updated pictures of the kids!!

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